Consider the Consequences: Dating Leads to Mating

I remember when I was a little girl and my mom said to me, "You don't need to be holding no little boys hand because one thing always leads to another." Of course I thought she didn't know what she was talking about, and it wasn't until I was about twenty-five or so that anything my mother said made any sense. I know it may not make sense, even as a believer not to date before getting married, but I have discovered that if you don't consider the consequences, the end result can prove to be disastrous.

So, have you considered the consequences of a dating relationship? I believe that if you would be honest with yourself, you would say that most of the times, the end result of your dating relationships was not good. However, since society says that dating is acceptable, believers fall into the trap and end up in a relationship that causes them to lose sight of God's kingdom purposes.

God's kingdom purpose for bringing a man and woman together is to build and perpetuate His kingdom here on earth. However, the enemy's counterfeit is dating, which nine times out of ten leads to mating or shall I say, fornicating. Now as a believer, we all know that fornication is a sin, but for the sake of companionship many will forsake their relationship with the Lord just for a momentary gratification of the flesh.

Hebrews 11:24-26 says, "By faith Moses, when he became of age, refused to be called the son of Pharaoh's daughter, choosing rather to suffer affliction with the people of God than to enjoy the passing pleasures of sin, esteeming the reproach of Christ greater riches than the treasures in Egypt; for he looked to the reward."

What a powerful verse of scripture. Let us look at it in the context of dating. When you get to the age of when society says dating is okay, you have to refuse to go along with the status quo. Make up in your mind that it is for God you live and die and be willing to be called a Jesus freak rather than enjoy the passing pleasures of a non committal dating relationship. You must purpose in your heart to love God more that the relationship, knowing that you will be rewarded for your obedience and faithfulness to Him.

I am so excited because I know that this is blessing the hearts of many single people. However, I also know that you may wonder, "If I don't date, how will I know if he or she is the one?" Well, that is a good question which I will delve into at a later date. For now, you may want to read my book So You Want to Get Married? Let's Talk. It provides in depth answers to that question. In the mean time, trust in the Lord and focus in on your relationship with Him. Father knows best and for right now, He wants you to be filled with all fulness of Him so that in the event that He should choose to bring a spouse your way, you will be ready.

I trust this was helpful. God is faithful and He will perfect that which concerns you. Be encouranged and purpose in your heart to consider the consequences in all that you do before you do what you do.

The Kingdom Prevails in 2012

Dr. Sheila

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